Help, these bad habits may cost me the love of my life

• Identifying your weaknesses, and recognising the hold they have on your life is the first step towards healing

He has shown some progress in ending the violence, so we can hope for more. Even though he may not show any other signs of recovery any time soon, your constant assurance may be the best way to help get him start this important journey to seek help and to recover.

There are many organisations that help alcoholics. Consider talking to them for help. But if there is a recurrence of the violence, report the matter to the police.

You may need to use your wisdom and caring heart to make him desire the necessary change. This must be done with firmness, but without coercion and intimidation. Blame, manipulation, and intimidation will only drive him further away.

Introduce him to friends who will not judge him, particularly at home, when he is not drunk. Involve him in family affairs and be firm about him attending to them. With both of you supporting each other, the future can be bright.