Are you this man’s father?
Posted Wednesday, May 2 2012 at 00:00
There were also more work opportunities in London. My mother tells me that these were some of the reasons he felt uncomfortable living in Denmark.
He called us a couple of times over the years, but when I turned 10, he stopped writing or calling. As I write this, I have no idea where he is or how to find him.
I am writing this in the hope that he, or someone who knows him or his whereabouts, will get in touch with me.
Going by the information I have, my father’s full names are Patrick Michael Ndirangu. He is around 43 years now. I do not know whether he is married or not or whether he has another family. I have a few pictures of him, including one where he is holding me when I was much younger.
You might be wondering why I want to find him after all these years.
I believe that every child has a right to know his father, especially when that child is male.
Drawing from my experience, I know that the last thing I would want is for my children to grow up without a father.
Growing up, I did wonder how differently my life would have been had I grown up with a father, but I told myself that there must have been a purpose for how my life turned out.
However, when I sometimes argued with my mother, as parents and children sometimes do, I would tell her that had I known where my father was, I would have gone to live with him.
This was insensitive, said in a fit of anger, and I would regret saying it because my mother is the best parent any child would be proud to have.
I admire her a lot, and she raised me well. She never got married and, on her own, raised me to be the man I am today.
For this, I am indebted to her for the rest of my life. She has no objection about my looking for my father.
She, too, believes that I should get to know him and hopes that my search will be successful.
I am curious to meet my father, to see whether I resemble him or whether I am like him in any way.
I am also curious to know whether I will experience some other aspects of life that I might have missed by not having him around.
Of course, I am a bit scared of the outcome, but my determination to find him overrides this fear.
If he is reading this, I want Patrick to know that I completed college last year. I graduated from one of the best sports colleges in Denmark.