What every woman wants

Saturday July 23 2011

When you’re both in the right mood, be creative — and don’t hold back. Chilled white wine, romance and glamour. And also to be a little risque ...

Photo/FILE When you’re both in the right mood, be creative — and don’t hold back. Chilled white wine, romance and glamour. And also to be a little risque ... 

By CHRIS HART

Women can be every bit as tough and career minded as men.

But they still want to be loved and cherished — it’s just that managing their romantic relationships can be quite a challenge.

Not least because male and female graduates follow different time lines for getting married.

Most men marry within a few years of starting work, while educated women tend to delay well into their 30s, or even beyond. 

This means life can get confusing for professional women — and the men in their lives! So what does a modern career woman want from a lover?

Well, she still wants her guy to be the man in the relationship. No matter how independent and tough she appears, there’s nothing a woman finds more attractive than a real man.

But she also needs him to be truthful about his intentions.

Where you stand

So if you just want to have fun, then say so. She won’t mind at all, because that’s probably her plan too for the next few years.

But if you’re looking for a wife right now, tell her so. Then at least you both know where you stand and can treat each other right.

Career women still love flowers and stuff, but her affection can’t be bought at a supermarket.

She loves you being chivalrous though. It’s very sexy when you fix her seat at the bar, or open a car door for her.

Take no notice of those strident sisters who say they don’t want stuff like that. They’re not in the real world. No matter how career minded a woman is, she still wants to be treated like a lady.

She dreams of coming home to a deep bath and a beautiful dinner. And she needs you to understand the difference between love and sex.

Sometimes she just wants a little romance — and no more. Mind you, there are other times.

So when you’re both in the right mood, be creative — and don’t hold back. She wants the ultimate in intimacy. Chilled white wine, romance and glamour. And also to be a little risque ...

So she wants you to be in charge — but not always. She wants to be surprised, overwhelmed and excited.

And also to explore her mischievous side. Times when you spend an hour romancing her first — and times when you just can’t wait. 

Be flexible

But more than anything else she wants you to understand how she feels about her career. She needs you to be flexible.

Maybe to have a long distance relationship for a while. While she — or you — study or work abroad. Perhaps to stay single a little longer than you intended.

But once you’ve decided you’re an item, for you to be committed — even if that means putting your plans for a family on hold for a while.

Can you do all that? Then you’re going to have the pick of some very special ladies!