How to bring your man back home

• You have the power to get your partner to want to spend more time with you.

“I had to take a step back and let my man be the super hero he was when we met, so whenever we watch news, I engage him by asking his opinion, pretending that I’ve not really understood.

That small change got our marriage back on track. I have now found a way to soothe Pete’s ego in all areas of our relationship.”

3 Spice up your sex life

“It is amazing how women will take time to research on weight loss and careers, but not on how to have better sex. We assume things will just happen,” says Vikkie.

“Stop having routine sex; stop making your sex life monotonous and predictable or you’ll soon find yourself sleeping next to your man like brother and sister. A lack of preparedness is what brings about bad sex.

Many women burn the midnight oil to finish a presentation, but when it comes to sex, they tend to give excuses such as ‘I’m tired’, ‘I’ve had a long day,’ etc.

If you applied the same energy and creativity you give your work in the bedroom, your man would always look forward to being with you.

“Our sex life was stuck in a rut; there was nothing interesting to look forward to. I told myself that if that was how I was feeling, then my man might be feeling the same or even looking for excitement elsewhere. I therefore did some online research and got some fresh ideas.

I was pleasantly surprised to find that he had some new ideas of his own. To cut the story short, things are great. Even when I feel tired, I find a way to compensate.

Eating foods that boost the libido also helps, especially on the days when you are feeling tired.”

4 Aim to remain fun

We make time for office cocktails, company dinners and clients’ events but claim to have no energy to hang out with our partners.

“I’m in the corporate world; I am required to entertain clients every so often, even when I am tired,” Tracy says.

This reality is what got her to change her attitude about being tired.

“A year ago,” she says, “whenever Jere would call to tell me he was going to be late, I would say ‘okay’… One day I decided to test the waters and asked if I could join him since I was near where he was; he agreed.

I met his colleagues from work and had a good time. I was tired but I wanted to show him that I was still available to have fun, even on weekdays.

“Nowadays, Jere calls when he is leaving work to ask if I want to join him and his friends for a drink. Sometimes I accept and sometimes I don’t. Having him know that if I stopped by I would be Fun Tracy is good enough for me.”

5 He comes before the children