The real meaning of ‘success’

• There is a way in which women who are pretenders to the throne of achievement behave. And it’s not pretty

And this may be perfectly fine because the world is a fractured place, but it’s jarring when they insist on using ‘success’ as leverage in their day-to-day dealings, and worse, in their relationships.

Sure, successful women are attractive because they exude confidence. Confident women are hard to dismiss. Nobody will admit this, but when a man encounters a confident (and not necessarily successful) woman he’s intrigued enough to want to see what she is really made of.

You want to dismantle every bit of her nuts and bolts and bare her in her true element.

The truth is that if you are successful, someone will somehow see that success. You won’t need to raise a neon placard to proclaim that success.

The highest high heels will not get you respect. If it gets to a point where a successful woman feels the need to exert her success to get something done, then she isn’t successful yet. At least not emotionally.