25 reasons some of us shun marriage
The success of marriage depends on our faith and the investment we are willing to make in it, then we will never have to give these reasons, no, excuses. PHOTO | FILE
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These reasons reminded me of the many times I have given reasons or excuses to skip a certain task or responsibility. There are many excuses and reasons that make us feel we will not succeed in say, our careers, but no matter what we feel, this has never stopped us from doing what we must to succeed, to keep trying.
Fear, pride, or anxious thoughts hinder many from achievable dreams.
I believe marriage is a choice, but let the choice we make be based on sound reason. Just because your car battery is down does not mean your car belongs to a scrap yard.
“When are you getting married?” This is the one unwelcome question many single people get asked.
It is uncomfortable and intrusive because some may have chosen to remain single, while others may not have met someone to settle down with yet. If you are single and get pestered with this question often, my opinion is that marriage isn’t a missing piece in the puzzle of your life, and it certainly isn’t what you need to feel complete.
While on a trip to Australia some time back, I asked some senior singles I met why they we not married. Without hesitation, one of them answered, “Why should I?” This got me thinking about why more and more people today are turning their backs on marriage. Out of our chat, I identified these 25 reasons, which explain why some shun marriage.
1. I would rather not face the cheating, the lies, and the secrets.
2. I feel that marriage is too complicated a relationship that it is akin to prison.
3. I am not attractive enough, no one would want to marry me.
4. Marriage is still the same old patriarchal institution.
5. I don’t have enough money to support a marriage and what comes with it.
6. Marriage is a flop, I have witnessed too many divorces and separations, it is not worth investing in.
7. I will be signing away my freedom by getting married.
8. I have a career to chase.
9. I will be stuck with one guy for the rest of my life.
10. I have never felt ready for it.
11. How do I know he/she is the one?
12. Men are bossy, I don’t want to be bossed around.
13. Women are too controlling, who wants that?
14. Marriage is totally isolating, I want to remain free.
15. It takes too much effort, why bother?
16. The responsibilities that come with marriage are too many.
17. Must I get married?
18. I don’t want children, and I don’t think I could cope with an ‘evil’ mother-in-law.
19. What if I get saddled with meddling brothers and sisters-in-law?
20. Marriage is boring, it kills adventure.
21. There is too much stress in marriage.
22. I can’t handle the abuse that seems to be common in marriage.
23. I want to keep my financial independence.
24. I don’t want to lose my identity
25. I tried marriage once, it did not work.
These reasons reminded me of the many times I have given reasons or excuses to skip a certain task or responsibility. There are many excuses and reasons that make us feel we will not succeed in say, our careers, but no matter what we feel, this has never stopped us from doing what we must to succeed, to keep trying.
Fear, pride, or anxious thoughts hinder many from achievable dreams.
I believe marriage is a choice, but let the choice we make be based on sound reason. Just because your car battery is down does not mean your car belongs to a scrap yard.
When we realise that the success of marriage depends on our faith and the investment we are willing to make in it, then we will never have to give these reasons, no, excuses.
