How come no man wants to date me?

Hello Pastor Kitoto,

I have a problem that I do not know how to solve.

I am 28. I have been single for two years since I broke up with my boyfriend of seven years, after I realised he was not serious.

I am an indoors person. Often, I go home straight from work, but someone advised me to go out a bit more.

Now the problem is that while all my male friends tell me I am beautiful and respectful person, none of them is interested in dating me.

Each man I meet wants to be just a friend.

I am starting to lose my self-esteem. I feel that I am not attractive enough, even though I keep myself well groomed. I dress well and keep fit.

Please help me understand what the problem might be.

Hi

It is up to you to affirm to yourself whether you are beautiful or not.

Do not let other people’s feelings and words or lack thereof affect how you feel and view yourself. Wake up every morning and learn to affirm yourself, “I am beautiful and wonderfully made.”

Add to this prayer and good inspirational books to help give you the encouragement you need.

When you learn to feed your mind on thoughts that are pure and trustworthy, you will grow in self-esteem.

I am a firm believer in the thought that people can live a full life with or without a man or woman.

Just like marriage is a gift, so is being single. You must feel complete and valued — first by your maker God and yourself.

Marriage, though great and an important milestone in a person’s journey, does not hold the key to one’s happiness, fulfilment, and reaching one’s God-given potential in life.

There are many who are married but wish they were single. There are others who are married and enjoying it.

I pray that you enjoy the life God has given you of being single for this period, as you wait for the gift of God in marriage.

What you should not do is to get married just for the sake of it, or allow your single status to be marred by feelings of regret.