So there are decent girls out there!
Successful relationships require selflessness and focus based on strong personal values such as self-control, respect, purity and mutual submission. PHOTO | FILE
What you need to know:
- I am glad that you have learnt certain lessons, and that your outlook on life is hopeful.
- A healthy self-esteem is essential for living with passion and focus.
Hi Sir,
I am surprised that, just when I thought there were no decent girls who would accept love without expectations or material and/or status attributes, I came across the article of the nurse looking for an honest man (June 23).
I am a 40 and had hoped to be in a relationship between the ages of 35 and 40. I was in a relationship that ended in 2012 when my girlfriend cheated on me and later got into another relationship. That was after I had almost finalised all arrangements to formalise our relationship.
I had decided to settle down and start a family and take up related responsibilities. For the first time in my life, I was truly in love! But that relationship completely changed the way I view women and relationships.
I know there are decent women out there and have tried many times to start a relationship but there is this negative feeling that makes me feel as if am committing a serious offence! Everyone has suggested that I move on, and especially my friends, who see this as a minor setback that I should overcome and forget.
However, I have no interest in being in a relationship and cannot think of starting one even within the next two years. So yes, there are great honest gentlemen out here and I wish I could get to know that nurse, or even meet someone like her. To her I say, please don’t feel awkward about holding on to your great sexual morals.
Although I believe in abstinence until marriage, I gave in to my ex girlfriend’s advances after she threatened to leave me if I refused. By the way, she was my first love and just look are where I am now – single and unable to fall in love. Hold on to what you have and pray about it.
Seen
Hi
The choices we make in relationships have consequences that shape our future. We, therefore, need to look at the choices we make with the end in mind. For example, “What will having sex before marriage do to my outlook on future relationships?” That is part of what we advance in this column, the whole issue of making intelligent choices.
I am glad that you have learnt certain lessons, and that your outlook on life is hopeful. A healthy self-esteem is essential for living with passion and focus.
Successful relationships require selflessness and focus based on strong personal values such as self-control, respect, purity and mutual submission.
