I am looking for a girlfriend who shares my faith, can you help?

Hi Phillip,

I got saved last year. I had a girlfriend who I loved but unfortunately, she was not born again. My spiritual mentor advised me to end the relationship because: “A believer cannot be yoked to an unbeliever”.

It was hard for me but ultimately, I had to break the relationship. I would like to know what your take on that is.

Since I am now single please connect me with a girl who is saved, preferably below 25? I am 27.

Kihara

Hi,

According to  author and marriage counsellor Joel Crohn, if a couple are part of an interfaith relationship, they have an extra layer of diversity to deal with. Religion plays an important role in the lives of humans. To many, it dictates the direction their values.

As a result, salvation becomes a personal choice we make.

However, When Christ came to set up his kingdom, he gave us the choice of following Him or not. Since you chose to follow him, realised  that his kingdom is run according to his word. It is therefore important that matters concerning religion be handled early however minor the issues may appear.

Dealing with such issues helps develop a common understanding on marriage issues. When your spiritual mentor told you about the verse from the Bible, what did you think of it? Do remember, obedience is part of what tests and matures our walk with God.

COMMON FAITH

If your partner was church going but not saved like you. You need to ask yourself: “What differences exist between your religious beliefs and hers”.

It is not enough for your spiritual mentor to have stop you from marrying this girl. You need to come to the place you understand how fundamental your differences are.

I have seen  people who thought they love each other watch their marriage fall apart just because they failed to deal with their differences in faith early enough.

If you make the choice to respect the choice you have made as regards your beliefs, this will help you appreciate the fact that our relationship with God plays an important part in dictating your spiritual destiny.

Finally, two cannot walk together unless they are in agreement in many areas including spirituality, which helps define values and principles that govern the faith and practice of marriage.

When a couple finds a common ground in issues of spirituality, it helps create a deeper bond for the two.

As far as finding another woman to marry is concerned, I would suggest that you take time to build yourself in your faith, and understand what this means in setting your value system.

As you pray and make the choice to be that kind of person a marriage partner would be looking for, it will not be long before I get a mail from you testifying of God’s provision of a future partner. I wish you well.