The keys to value-added relationships

Monday January 11 2016

Adding value to your partner makes them feel loved, appreciated and desired, and they are in turn motivated to make you feel more valued and appreciated. PHOTO | FILE

Adding value to your partner makes them feel loved, appreciated and desired, and they are in turn motivated to make you feel more valued and appreciated. PHOTO | FILE 

By PHILIP KITOTO
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What most couples fail to realise is that it doesn’t take much to help your partner feel more valued by you every day.

Adding value to your partner makes them feel loved, appreciated and desired, and they are in turn motivated to make you feel more valued and appreciated. I read somewhere that the quality of your life will be largely based on the relationships you nurture along the way.

In addition, if you are consistent in adding value, you will find that you have no shortage of friends and affection. Deeper relationships are built when we are willing to make sacrifices. These sacrifices include:

  •  Embracing the bigger picture approach mentality

  •  Striving to be the better partner in the relationship

  •  Being less controlling and instead giving your partner space to be themselves

  •  Allowing your partner to learn from their mistakes.

  •  Being generous with your compliments

  •  Listening and keeping an eye out for his or her hidden unmet needs

  •  Identifying and encouraging your spouse’s dreams

  •  Being willing to invest time in your spouse

  •  Praising your spouse often, whether he or she is there or not

  •  Seeking to understand before pushing to be understood