He’s younger and earns less, will it work?

Hi,
I am a 28-year-old woman. I have been in a number of relationships in which men have hurt me, but now I have found a new love.

He seems serious and has already introduced me to his family. We have dated for nine months.

We are planning to get married next year, God willing. I am two years older and I have a degree while he has a diploma.

I earn nearly twice what he does and we are working in the same institution. He is the only man I truly love. Do you think it will work?

Hi,

I am not really sure you have given me enough information to tell whether or not it will work.

First, since you have doubts, there is a need to evaluate the basis for that uncertainty. Often, fear and doubt have a strong bearing on areas of ambiguity that might need working on.

Sometimes, fear or a certain level of anxiety in a relationship can be caused by a person’s own concerns based on his or her experiences.

Since you have had many broken relationships, could it that you are looking at him through the lens of those failures?

I suggest that you evaluate the reasons you base your judgement on why he is a good man and what sets him apart. Your answer should speak into core values that guarantee a good relationship.

On the other hand, could he be in the relationship for economic gain? Again, I really do not know.

I wonder what would happen if you were earning the same amount or less than him. Would he still value and respect you? In essence, what I am asking is whether he values you for yourself, regardless of the money.

Relationships require thorough evaluation of each other’s values, likes, dislikes, habits, practices, exposure, and background.

If done properly, there is bound to be an area of common interest, after which one can ask themselves whether what they stand to lose is more than what they will gain. This is the homework you need to do.