WIFESPEAK: If you’re married, please, leave single people alone
Unlike you, they have made no vows to anyone, and are not accountable to anyone. PHOTO | FILE
What you need to know:
I am past the age of indecisive chain SMS’s, so I called him. I do not know which wood works he had crawled from, but this Johnny who came calling was, can I say a potential flame which never came to light?
We had briefly tried dating when I was a single girl, but it never worked out.
Now that I think about it, he was too busy juggling girls, unsure which one to settle for, and at some point, I got tired and left the line-up.
Fancy a drink?
Came a text message from a number not on my contact list.
“Thanks, but who is this please?” I wrote back.
Karimi, you deleted my number? I’m heart broken. I know yours off head.
Right, so one thing was clear. This was a man. And he was flirting. Women know these things right away. From the way a man looks at you, to the way he talks to you, we know when he is being a chauvinistic pig, or a charming gentleman, a respectful
guy or not, to when he is outright insulting. We know these things way before you open your mouth.
I am past the age of indecisive chain SMS’s, so I called him. I do not know which wood works he had crawled from, but this Johnny who came calling was, can I say a potential flame which never came to light?
We had briefly tried dating when I was a single girl, but it never worked out. Now that I think about it, he was too busy juggling girls, unsure which one to settle for, and at some point, I got tired and left the line-up.
“Thanks John, but why do you want us to have a drink?” I asked him after expressing my surprise about hearing from him after so many years.
“Well, you know…to catch up. Like old friends,” he said, sounding surprised that I was not willing to meet him.
“Well, thanks, but I am married now and as a matter of principle, I don’t meet ex-boyfriends for drinks.”
He laughed.
IMPURE INTENTIONS
“It’s not like we did anything…we were just friends. Come on, are you sure your husband doesn’t meet other women without your knowledge?”
It was clear too that his intentions were not pure, which reminded me another reason this relationship never saw the light of day - we did not have shared values.
“One of the reasons I married him was because he is a man of honour,” I said and effectively cut short his chuckle.
“I don’t expect you to understand this John, but thank you for your call,” I added. I do not think he realised that I had just insulted his intellect, because he sent me a text afterwards, reminding me that his offer for a drink was still open.
First, if you are single, leave married people alone. Do not ask them out to a date or accept drink offers from them. If they tell you that they are bored with their marriage, take off.
They are lying. There is way too much drama in marriage to leave room for boredom. If a married man tells you he no longer attracted to his wife because she put on 50kgs, call his bluff and ask him how much he has put on since he got married.
If a married woman tells you how her husband no longer pays attention to her, run for the hills my friend.
And you married people, would you please leave the single people alone? They have made no vows to anyone, and are not accountable to anyone, other than their God.
You look like a greedy, indecisive fool when you have a partner, but are still roaming, looking for more. Could you please stop behaving like that person who orders a meal, but as he gobbles it up, his neighbour’s meal arrives and he thinks it looks better than
what he ordered, and wants to gobble it too? There is nothing attractive about a married man or woman playing in the single’s wing. It reeks of irresponsibility, dishonesty and corruption.
As for those who have no regard for the marriage union, please stay single for the rest of your life.
