FEEDBACK: Let Asunta be…

Asunta Wagura displays a dummy copy of her book, From heartbreak to daybreak- my journey with HIV’ during its launch during the World Aids Day celebrations at the Nakuru’s Afraha Stadium on December 1, 2012. PHOTO | FILE

What you need to know:

  • Did anyone ask for Tenderoni’s side of the story when she and Josaya separated? We all listened to Josaya and sympathised with him. Why can’t we extend the same courtesy to Asunta?

  • This is not about gender equality, it is about being fair and humane to those around us. Asunta is human, just like the rest of us. She is allowed to hurt. 

Let Asunta be…

Why are we being unfair to Asunta? This is in response to her recent article, saying that she and the father of her children separated. Asunta opened up about her pain, but some of us dared to tell her off, saying that hers is too personal a topic to share on national paper. One reader accused Asunta last week of being unfair to her husband, since he’s not around to tell his side of the story.

Did anyone ask for Tenderoni’s side of the story when she and Josaya separated? We all listened to Josaya and sympathised with him. Why can’t we extend the same courtesy to Asunta?

This is not about gender equality, it is about being fair and humane to those around us. Asunta is human, just like the rest of us. She is allowed to hurt. 

Masinde Nakhumicha

 

I love reading Living magazine, especially Asunta’s column. I sympathise with her that her marriage did not work out, that is why I am appalled by the reader who castigated her for going public about her separation. Her article was well-meaning, and devoid of the usual tantrums and blame games that are the hallmark of many separations· Josaya Wasonga took us through his separation with Tenderoni, and their eventual reuniting. We, her fans, are hoping for the same happy ending for Asunta·

Njambi Evelyn

 

Women’s handbags are scary!

Karimi, I find your column hilarious. Though I enjoyed your article last week about women’s handbags, it is not funny trying to get anything from my wife’s handbag, in fact, I have never succeeded to find anything. I have observed that even you women have difficulty finding whatever you’re looking for. Have you ever seen the difficulty a woman goes through when her phone rings in a quiet place, say in church? She rummages through her bag looking for the phone until it goes silent. It is not funny at all.

Simon

 

Karimi, like your husband, I hate it when my wife asks me to get something from her handbag, and also resent it when she requests me to carry it for her. Keep entertaining us.

 Leonard Murwayi

 

That was a great article last week. It helped me to unwind a little. I am one of those men who feel uncomfortable opening a woman’s handbag. The few times when I have opened my wife’s bag, after curiosity got the better of me, I dreaded what I would find inside, only to just find a bunch of receipts, keys, and ID. Women’s handbags are not so bad.

Benson

 

I read your article last week with a lot of amusement. Your husband and I are cut from the same cloth. I have just sent it to my wife so that she can see that I’m not the only man who becomes fearful when asked to get something from a handbag.

Vincent

 

Controlling parents

I can relate to what Carol Nkatha wrote about in last week’s Have Your Say. There is nothing as bad as having controlling parents. I think many parents force their children to go for careers they don’t care for so that they can brag to others about how bright their children are.

Brian Too