JUST BRENDA: Why don’t women want to date me?

Tuesday September 12 2017

Every beautiful lady I meet tells me that we

Every beautiful lady I meet tells me that we should be friends first and I don’t know how to handle that. PHOTO| FILE| NATION MEDIA GROUP 

By BRENDA OKOTH
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Hello Brenda,

I’m 24 years old. I have been single for the last three years. Every beautiful lady I meet tells me that we should be friends first and I don’t know how to handle that. I do not want to be single forever. How can you help me?

Slow down.

I will tell you this, nothing is more unattractive on a man than desperation. If you are going proclaiming love and proposing serious relationships to women on your first, second or third dates, stop.

Asking to be friends first is an utterly reasonable request. You need to slow down. The next time you meet a beautiful woman, don’t try making her your girlfriend right away. Be friends first, during this phase, put your best foot forward and also get to know who she is. Friendship is a very solid foundation for a romantic relationship.

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