JUST BRENDA: My girlfriend constantly threatens to leave

Thursday September 14 2017

My girlfriend threatens to leave each time we

My girlfriend threatens to leave each time we have a misunderstanding. PHOTO| FILE| NATION MEDIA GROUP 

By BRENDA OKOTH
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Hey Brenda,

I have been in a relationship for six months and my girlfriend has been a headache throughout. The reason is that every time we have a misunderstanding, she threatens to leave. She claims to love me and I love her too. Should I stay or should I just use her and leave her?

 

Your girlfriend’s constant threats of leaving the relationship are a clear sign that she is not fully invested in the relationship. She may love you but she seems to be only halfway in. Using her then dumping her is not the solution, in fact, you while at it, you might end up only hurting yourself.

What you need to do is to have a sit down with her. Find out if the two of you are on the same page with regard to where the relationship is headed. If you are, start fighting to stay together, not fighting each other. If not, find a woman who wants the same level of commitment that you are seeking.

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