How good girls can finish first in race for good men

Sunday January 10 2016

Because while most women look for mature guys who are thinking about the future, most guys are much more focused on the here and now. So they’re drawn to girls who don’t seem to dwell on the future so much. ILLUSTRATION | IGAH

Because while most women look for mature guys who are thinking about the future, most guys are much more focused on the here and now. So they’re drawn to girls who don’t seem to dwell on the future so much. ILLUSTRATION | IGAH 

By CHRIS HART
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Every man says he prefers to date a “good girl”. Someone who’s genuine, honest, dependable and trustworthy. Who won’t break his heart. And who’s not picky, stuck up or critical. Or obsessed with designer bags, shoes and dresses…

But you know what? Even though they know that’s the sort of girl they should be looking for, they actually find them a little too intimidating. So they usually end up chasing the bad girls. Even though they know they can be serious trouble!

So what’s a good girl to do, if she want to date the best guys?

Just add a few “bad girl” traits to your natural good girl behaviour! You’ll still be a good girl overall, and that’s a combination no man can resist…

So become a little more adventurous. A little more open to new ideas. Guys are natural risk-takers, so they like the way bad girls are always up for something new. Men often fear settling down – but that seems much more attractive when they’re with an adventurous woman.

EXCITING ADVENTURE

Good girls tend to be organised, mature and focused – which guys find really scary. Because if your life’s all in order, he’ll wonder whether you really need him. While bad girls are a little wild, fun and exciting. So taming one feels like an absolutely irresistible challenge.

Radiate bad girl confidence. Men love a girl who looks like she’s happy with who she is. Able to stand up for herself and be independent. Who doesn’t seem to care what everyone else thinks. Who’s outgoing, and not too worried about the future. Who says when she’s upset. Tells you exactly what’s wrong. And how to fix it.

Because while most women look for mature guys who are thinking about the future, most guys are much more focused on the here and now. So they’re drawn to girls who don’t seem to dwell on the future so much.

Good girls always seem as if they’re longing to have a family. Even if actually they’re not. Bad girls seem as carefree and reluctant to commit as the guys are — at least for now. Which takes the pressure off and means everyone can just have fun.

Men are used to being the one who has to take the initiative, so they love it when a woman starts something once in a while. So don’t be shy. Every man wants to find a woman who’s as passionate about him as he is about her. Who enjoys touching him as much as he enjoys touching her. Who will be mischievous with him in the bedroom. And will stay that way all through their lives together.

Bad girls are adventurous and exciting. They stand out because of their confidence and sex appeal. They’re not afraid to take the initiative, and they say what they feel.

So add a little more of all that to your good girl qualities, and you’ll be a sure fire winner!