How to bring back fairy tale love

Begin planning actual dates with each other again. This includes going places you’ve never been before. ILLUSTRATION| IGAH

What you need to know:

  • Start planning actual dates with each other again. Go places you’ve never been before. Try new kinds of food together. Travel together. Try to make every date different.
  • In the beginning of your relationship you were forever touching. Holding hands and cuddling. How quickly things like that stopped. So never miss an opportunity to hold hands again.

The beginning of a relationship’s a bit like a fairy tale. Lots of excitement and romance. But fairy tales always end pretty soon. The fireworks fade away, and your relationship gets a little dull. And you can’t imagine how to get the spark back.

Like in the beginning, everything you did felt so new. And then slowly became routine. But you don’t remember what’s routine. You remember novelty. So never miss an opportunity to do something different!

And do you recall how when you first starting dating you two would just make out for hours? You couldn’t keep your hands off of each other. Or your lips. But somehow you’ve stopped all that. So start behaving like you’re teenagers again!

And reminisce. Talk about all the nice things that you’ve done together. Like how you first met. Relive your very first few dates again and laugh about your awkward, silly, crazy and cute first moments. Your first kiss, the moment when you first realised you were an item, your first holiday together. Talking about those first times will bring back the old closeness.

Start planning actual dates with each other again. Go places you’ve never been before. Try new kinds of food together. Travel together. Try to make every date different.

In the beginning of your relationship you were forever touching. Holding hands and cuddling. How quickly things like that stopped. So never miss an opportunity to hold hands again. Even a few simple hugs will make you feel more connected. Don’t lose touch with one another!

In your first few months together, you told each other how you felt. Lots of loving words, messages and phone calls. But as your relationship settled down, somehow those words started to fade away. Fewer and fewer sweet loving texts. No more compliments. But those “You’re the best!” and “I’m so glad I met you!” really make a difference. So start speaking up again. Say out loud just how much you mean to each other. Appreciate every small favour. Say “I love you” as you wake up and fall sleep.

And make a point of going to bed together! Remember how when your relationship was just beginning, going bed together was the highlight of your day. But as the years passed, somehow that got forgotten. So one of you always ends up on the couch watching TV, while the other heads for bed alone.

Instead, have a last snack together on the sofa, sitting close and chatting about your day. And then prepare for bed together. You’ll feel much more intimacy and warmth between you, and your sex life will definitely improve!

And really spice things up in the bedroom! Because good sex is what holds you together. So if your intimate moments have become relentlessly one note, you need to rev it up again. Let your wild side show. Try new moves and new places. And before you know it, you’ll be in a fairytale romance again.