It’s possible to find a soul mate

It is possible to find someone who’s just right for you. And when you find them, you’ll just know it. And will understand why things never worked out with anyone else before. ILLUSTRATION | IGAH

What you need to know:

  • You’ll also make each other laugh. Finding a sense of humour that matches yours is hard. But your soul mate will know how to reach you when it matters the most. Making you laugh even when the chips are down.
  • You listen to each other, and can share your thoughts honestly. You resolve arguments without tearing each other apart. And learning to forgive and apologise.
  • Spending your whole life with someone also means they’ll certainly see you make a fool of yourself - probably many times. 

Is there such a thing as a “soul mate”? Someone out there who’s just right for you – who will never change and be faithful, so you’ll live happy ever after?

Divorce statistics suggest otherwise. But it is possible to find someone who’s just right for you. And when you find them, you’ll just know it. And will understand why things never worked out with anyone else before. But the signs you’ve found your soul mate are probably not what you’d expect.

Like you probably won’t realise you’ve met “The One” until you’ve been together a while. But you might notice a few patterns early on which will give you a clue.

Like every relationship’s constantly tested. Annoying friends, intrusive family members, endless challenges at work and so on. But if you’re becoming soul mates, you’ll take on the world together. You won’t share every argument with your friends, or go running to your parents with a list of grievances.

You’ll also make each other laugh. Finding a sense of humour that matches yours is hard. But your soul mate will know how to reach you when it matters the most. Making you laugh even when the chips are down.

BETTER THAN SELF

You won’t nag or keep score. Soul-mates quickly realise that some things are not worth the hassle. When you know you’ll be spending your life with someone, you soon learn to let a lot of the little stuff go.

And you’re good at making each other happy, because you want to. Not because there’s some sort of competition going on.

You listen to each other, and can share your thoughts honestly. You resolve arguments without tearing each other apart. And learning to forgive and apologise. Spending your whole life with someone also means they’ll certainly see you make a fool of yourself - probably many times. 

It’s about living together peacefully. “I’m sorry,” “It was my fault,” and “I was wrong” won’t ever come easy. But a good sign you’re with your soul-mate is that they don’t use your apologies as an opportunity to make you feel bad.

A soul-mate will know you better than you know yourself. They’ll know your clothes sizes, favourite foods, what you’re worrying about. And will give you insights into yourself. Soul mates start to develop a joint game plan very early. And each day, in some small way, you’ll be working towards your goals together.

And you’ll have a deep sexual chemistry. You’ll touch and kiss each other confidently. You’re tender – and adventurous. And set aside enough time for intimacy, no matter how difficult life becomes. And because you know how to please each other, and how to meet all your physical needs, chances are you’ll never ever part.