Making your wedding night truly memorable

You’ve planned for months, made your vows, partied for hours, and now the moment has arrived. Your wedding night.

Everyone has such high hopes — mostly centred around wonderful sex. But for many,  the reality doesn’t meet their expectations at all.

I’ve known couples who spent the night in hospital with food poisoning, or injuries from the dance floor. One was hospitalised because the wedding cake fell on her foot!

Some couples get so wasted that there’s no sex at all — for days — or they couldn’t remember it, or it was simply awful. Some couples get into such arguments that they spend their wedding night in separate rooms.

A LITTLE PLANNING

One couple slept apart because she’d forgotten to give him a room key, and then fell so deeply asleep no-one could wake her. And the hotel staff wouldn’t let him in.

Some get so hungry they end up in fast food joints in their wedding gear. One couple were so drunk they couldn’t remove her dress and ended up cutting off umpteen tiny buttons. Many wake up with nothing besides wedding stuff to wear.

Others have drunk guests charge into their hotel room at the magic moment…

But lots do have a wonderful wedding night. How do they do it?

All it takes is a little planning and realistic expectations.

Don’t be one of the brides who wake up without any casual clothes. Be sure a bag of what you need makes it to your room. Arrange to have some food from the wedding sent to your room, and a candlelight dinner set up in case you’re hungry. Take some of your favourite music with you.

Agree to keep an eye on each other during the party. You want to be relaxed and sociable, but not at all drunk. And don’t even think of inviting friends or family back to your room!

Flirt with each other all day. Dance close. And when you finally make it to the bedroom, let him carry you across the threshold — and again when you get home.

This romantic tradition is very old, and was originally intended to keep the new bride safe from evil spirits in the doorway.

MAGICAL DAY

But later on, people came to believe that whoever first set foot across the threshold would dominate the marriage.

So the husband carried his new bride to ensure it was him! Some things never change, do they?

Once in your room, take a moment to remember the magic of your day. Help her out of her dress. Bliss out in the bath together. Feed each other.

Focus on enjoying each other  and let the sex happen when you’re ready. You’ve a whole lifetime ahead of you, remember!

Instead, follow your instincts, consciously appreciate the whole experience, and don’t be disappointed if there’s none of the wild ecstasy you’ve seen in the movies.

Hollywood isn’t real life! Just relax and enjoy yourselves. Creating a memory you’ll cherish for the rest of your life.