Are you ready for a relationship?

Every heart longs to be whole. A stable, happy relationship is the ultimate dream for most people.

Wanting a relationship is however different from being ready for one. Baggage from the past is the most obvious sign that you are not ready.

Here’s a look into other less subtle ways of knowing if you are really ready to meet Mr Right
You have been constantly falling for Mr. Wrong – Look keenly at your dating patterns in the recent past. Have you been falling for unavailable men?

Do the men you have been dating fall in a particular category that makes them unsuitable matches for you? This has nothing to do with you having bad taste.

This is your subconscious communicating that you are not ready for a relationship. Constantly choosing the wrong guy could be a subconscious attempt to sabotage these relationships right from the onset because you are not ready, or you are afraid of a real connection.

ALL YOUR EXES WERE WRONG
All your exes were in the wrong – For you to be ready for the serious commitment that comes with a stable relationship, you need to have evolved from your past relationships.

If you feel that all the people you have dated in the past were the ones that failed the relationship, there are things about yourself that you need to learn before you are ready for a relationship.

Taking responsibility for your role in failed past relationships is the first step to a fulfilling relationship.

You are willing to change it all – Being too independent is one of the most obvious signs that you are not ready for a relationship.

On the flip side, should you find yourself too willing to change things about yourself including sections of your personality to suit the person that you are with, then you aren’t ready.

A real relationship is about compromise, not utter sacrifice from one party. If you feel ready to change yourself to be exactly what the other person wants, you are not ready.

Casting – Pay attention to how you react when you meet a new person. Are you glad because they are such great personalities or are you excited at how well they seem to fit into your life?

If it is the latter, you are not ready. If you get into a relationship, you will go in with the mind-set of ownership. Their needs and happiness will not seem as important as yours. This is a weak foundation for a relationship.

You are sexually dominant – In today’s relationship arena, sexual dominance might seem like a great thing.

When you are looking at a real relationship however, it maybe a bad sign. It means that you will pay little attention to trying to please your significant other.

A person with extreme sexual dominance is also likely not to treat the relationship as a priority.

You spend most of your time searching – Is finding The One at the top of your list of priorities this year?

Are you consciously preparing to meet the love of your life each time you leave the house? Yes? You are not ready for a relationship.

Spending most of your time putting yourself out there means that you are not happy alone and you are looking for someone to complete you. What makes you think another person will enjoy your company when you can’t?

You are looking for love – If your main focus is to find love and not to find a partner, chances are that you will overlook many bad things to attain this feeling.

When you are ready for a real relationship, you will be able to look beyond the feeling at other qualities you need in a partner.