Should I quit school to chase this Turk?

I met this Turkish guy on Facebook. We started chatting and flirting and he said that I was beautiful and that he wants to marry me. At first I was reluctant because his profile showed he was married and had a photo of him with his children.

However, he told me not to worry about that and a little while later, he sent me the paperwork showing that he was in the process of getting a divorce. He swears he loves me and he is even making arrangements for me to visit him in Turkey. I am a first-year student from a humble family and I have a Kenyan boyfriend. Should I go to Turkey or should I stay in Kenya and complete my education? I am confused. Please help!

READERS' ADVICE:

Beware because people never reveal all their personal information online. Also, think about all the people who would give anything to go to university, yet you want to waste your golden chance. Please re-evaluate your options and remember that your education is very important.

Thirdly, find true love in your Kenyan boyfriend and if God wills one day you will fly across the globe. Despite all I have said, follow your heart bearing in mind what is good for you and your family. You should consider engaging the services of a counsellor to help you, lest you make a terrible mistake.

Make your decision with a lot of sobriety.

Arthur Omuse

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You have more important things to do than chase a married man. Do you even have a way of ascertaining that what he is telling you is the truth? Again, look at your background, which you admit is humble.

I believe by educating you your parents are trying to spare you the misery that they have had to endure so that you amount to something. My word of advice is simple and clear: Cut off all communication with that man and focus on your studies. It will make life easier for you in the long run.

Samuel Njogu Ndung’u

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You’ll be doing a severe injustice to yourself if you abandon your studies to go to Turkey. First, you hardly know this guy and you shouldn’t rely on the information you got from his profile. Many people fall prey to international criminals in a similar manner.

Secondly, you can’t be sure that he is going to get a divorce from his wife. Just forget about this guy and focus on your studies. Your education will open the doors of the world for you.

John Musuku

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You want to take a plane and visit a foreign country because you believe the grass is greener in Turkey than in Kenya. Don’t be shocked when you find out that this man is from Kenya but has only updated his status as Turkey in order to attract needy cases like yourself.

You should be asking yourself if you value your current relationship instead of asking for advice to destroy it. Weighing between going to Turkey and going on with your studies shows that you have lost sight of what is important in life. Please, go back to class.

Shinanda Wilbroda

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Why should you fall for a guy who is a foreigner when you have a boyfriend? Is this true love or blind love? Are you driven by money?

Do not abandon your education and disappoint your parents who have worked tirelessly to get you where you are. You might go to Turkey and end up being frustrated and live in regret.

Calvin Queens

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It is unfortunate that you happen to come from a humble family but that is not reason enough for you to be desperate. What I see in your contemplated move is just an imagined quick richness and not love. Ask yourself, what made this man divorce his wife wife? Are the divorce papers you received authentic?

When the deal sounds too sweet think twice. Also, remember that a bird in hand is worth ten in the bush.

Andrew Kiriago

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EXPERT ADVICE

Maurice Matheka, a relationship counsellor answers:

You met an older man who happens to be Turkish and that appealed to you. He most likely promised you the world.

Whether he is married or getting a divorce is beside the point. If indeed he cares about you he should be steering you to finishing your studies not luring you into thoughts of marriage with a complete stranger.

Social media relationships have a way of clouding one’s judgment, so I strongly advocate for you to concentrate on your studies and forget about that guy for now.

NEXT WEEK'S DILEMMA:

I am 28 years old and I got a child immediately after high school. My mother took him under her wings as I continued with my studies. My son has been living with my mother ever since and I never tell any man I am dating that I have a child lest he abandons me for being a single mother.

I learnt this from experience since there are men who dumped me as soon as they found out I had a son. Now, I have been living with my current man for two years and I have never told him that I have a child, but my mother insists that since I am now married, I should take my son and live with him because he needs my motherly love.

However, I am worried about what will happen when my husband finds out that I have a child I hid from him. I love him very much and he loves me too. I don’t want this relationship to end. What will I do?