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Are strip clubs really bad for your marriage?

Last weekend’s main feature was embarrassing. It may be true that married men are frequenting strip clubs, but why should girls strip anyway? A woman’s nudity should be saved for her husband.

Our bodies are temples of God and there is no point in misusing God’s house. Why do girls want to expose their bodies to everyone? No man will admit this because men just want to satisfy the desires of the flesh, but I believe that strip clubs have a negative effect on marriage.

Men end up comparing the strippers’ nude bodies to their wives’ bodies and of course their wives don’t measure up because in comparison, the strippers look sexier. Such comparisons are bound to shift a man’s love and lust from his wife to the strippers.

I also think that strip clubs contribute a great deal to immorality as well as unfaithfulness in relationships. The women who think that strip clubs are good for marriages say that blindly – if they really knew what a strip club does to a man’s mind, they would rethink their stand and oppose these clubs.

Harriet Kisali, Kakamega

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I read somewhere that pornography has beneficial effects and at the risk of being castigated for my views, let me say that strip clubs, though an import of western society, have a role to play even here at home.

Men are visual beings who are excited and aroused by the exotic dancers in strip clubs. This is good because a strip club can help a woman find out whether her man has a normal sex drive.

Moreover, all men need foreplay and sexual stimulation. Strip clubs should never be banned. We do not need a puritanical society where sexuality is denied.

Alnashir D Walji, Nairobi

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The Saturday Nation of 12th April was rich in content and could be read from cover to cover. Joan Thatiah’s piece on strip clubs, in the Satmag, was written according to journalistic norms, but I am afraid it was a subtle way of peddling voyeurism and trying to justify it. If seven out of 10 women said that they do not approve of strip clubs, statistically that is enough ground to consider strip tease evil.

Men and women have different takes on this issue, but that is because their brains are wired differently. Most thugs are male and they break into people’s houses. In the same way, in the name of performing art, these beautiful girls twirling around poles on the stage are capable of ruining many a secure home. It is a case of women pitted against themselves.

Anto Poruthur, via email

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As I read through Joan Thatiah’s article on strip clubs, a number of things came into my mind. The world we are living in right now has evolved from good to bad. Most of this is blamed on technological advancement.

Nudity is now considered a normal part of life. What really happened to the morals our forefathers upheld? There is no way you can stimulate emotions with a different person then end up making love to your partner. This is just wrong!

Calvin Queens, via email

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No matter what is said to justify visiting strip clubs by regular patrons, the truth is that they are a ticking time bomb waiting to destroy marriages. A married person has no business whatsoever going to a strip club.

Husbands and wives can make better use of their time and energy by working on their failing marriages instead of visiting strip clubs.

Denniz Pinyez, via email

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Strip clubs are bad news, especially when one gets addicted. Fulfilling your eyes by watching naked women leads to financial problems, diseases, divorce and many other ills, but unfortunately that does not stop men from going there.

Audry Emmy, via email

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A vision for domestic care

The story of Rose Mwangi of Naava Service Solutions was very inspiring. It showed that adding value to house helps changes how they, and society as a whole, perceive domestic work.

Kudos to Rose for changing the lives of house helps and helping them build confidence and pride in their work! All bureaus should seek her services to enable them meet the standards expected by clients.

Alex Wambugu, via email

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I was impressed on reading about Rose Mwangi’s company. Domestic help has become a source of angst for many households because the girls employed lack basic skills and have little professionalism. There is also little trust between employers and their employees. I hope Rose will be able to scale up her operations to cover the whole country.

SM, via email

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Raising an entrepreneurial child

It was inspiring to read the story of Aisha Wanjiku, the child entrepreneur. It was not just a story about a child with unique entrepreneurial skills, but also about a supportive and understanding parent who has given her child a chance to hone her abilities, and explore and experiment with different ideas thus leading her to her passion.

This is a good lesson to possessive and self-centred parents who impose careers on their children.

Brian Anam, via email

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