Away with haters... and mosquitos

Haters. They are everywhere and like a bad rash, we cannot ignore them if we wanted to. They are in your face and you cannot take a breath without smelling their cheap perfume.

Scientists say that everything in the eco system has a purpose in co-existence between living things, but somebody enlighten me what the purpose of a mosquito is.

I have scratched my head over this over and over, and I always come out empty. I mean, is there anything more irritating?

A mosquito is not even good to look at, not that you can see it well with its size, so you cannot put it in the same category with a lion.

It has the most annoying sound; it has an annoying bite that is not even painful, just plain irritating. As if that was not enough, at their worst, they give you malaria. What, pray do tell, is the positive purpose of a mosquito?

No, I have not digressed. As I muse over the purpose of a mosquito, something I often do, part of my brain is mulling over the purpose of haters.

Their purpose in life is to make your life as hard as possible. They feed on hate because they are nothing without hate. If you designed the Eiffel Tower they would still see something extremely ‘wrong’ with it.

It will never matter whether you emulate Mother Theresa in your goodness, they will comb through your deed and find something wrong.

In an ideal world, haters and mosquitoes would be banished.

They would be wrapped in foil, put in a drum, hauled to the top of a hill where the drum would be rolled down and hopefully they would end up in an ocean, never to be seen again because hopefully some hungry shark would smell their malicious blood and shred them to pieces. But it is not an ideal world.

There is good news though, at least on my end. I have discovered the purpose of haters. They keep us on our toes – complacency is a luxury when you have haters.

They remind us the world is not our mother – not so forgiving, understanding or caring.

Without haters, there would be very few successful people in the world because haters challenge us by awakening the fire in us, the fire to succeed.

Haters can make or break you. You have to live with them, but how they affect your performance is not their fault, it is yours.

You have the power to let them bring you down, or not. Do not let the prophets of doom win.

How do you spot haters?

They talk big, but they are all mouth and little action.

They forever talk over you. If you manage to put in a word, especially about a project, they will suddenly have a similar project, but bigger.

Practical example; you have a clothes shop, all your genuine friends have bought stuff from the shop, but the hater needs to be able to say they bought from you as well, so what do they do?

They take things on credit but they either never pay up, perhaps hoping to bring your business down, or before they pay you, your blood pressure would be on borderline unhealthy.

They are nice and lovely in your presence, but the minute your back is turned, they will tell anyone who is willing to listen what a loser you are. Good news is, you always get to know what they say.

Remember, there is a difference between haters and critics. Both very important, but whilst the first lot want to bring you down, the critics want to improve you.

Very easy to differentiate the two; critics tell you to your face how to improve; haters tell others why they think you would not succeed.

I still do not know the purpose of a mosquito.