Is my husband cheating with his cyber lover?
I have been married for five years now. We very seldom argue, but my husband is obsessed with internet chat rooms. PHOTO | FILE
What you need to know:
Emphasise your love for him and how you really want to make this marriage work. Your husband needs to be aware that his words of love should be followed by actions.
Your talk should unearth the cause of his behaviour, which could stem from past unresolved issues.
This will call for a clear resolution of these issues, their sensitivity notwithstanding.
In case he does not abandon this behaviour after all your effort, then he is not ready to save your marriage. In that case, remember that it is impossible to love a person who does not love you back, so you may have to make a different decision
Q: I have been married for five years now. We very seldom argue, but my husband is obsessed with Internet chat rooms.
He has found a woman there whom he talks to all the time. I discovered that she is telling him she wants to be with him and that she loves him; I’m not sure he’s not telling her the same thing.
Of late, they are even talking on the phone. It has been months since we made love. I love him so much and I can’t imagine being without him. Help me, please.
A: You both need to recommit to the original reason why you are together, which is your love for one another. Do this through honest communication.
As you talk, dig deep to try to express your pain, your fear, your anxiety. Let him know that cyber flirtations are a threat to your marriage and he needs to curb this.
Emphasise your love for him and how you really want to make this marriage work. Your husband needs to be aware that his words of love should be followed by actions.
Your talk should unearth the cause of his behaviour, which could stem from past unresolved issues. This will call for a clear resolution of these issues, their sensitivity notwithstanding.
In case he does not abandon this behaviour after all your effort, then he is not ready to save your marriage. In that case, remember that it is impossible to love a person who does not love you back, so you may have to make a different decision.
