Are you his little secret?

When TLC released their one time hit song, “you are my little secret and that’s how we should keep it,” we all sang along to it little knowing that at one point in our lives, the song would bring grief to women when they discovered that very men out there have mastered the art of deceiving them into thinking that they are the only women in the said men’s lives when in reality, they have a string of others hanging around them

The sad thing is that it’s not easy to know if you are someone’s little secret, because these so-called single men have mastered the art of deceit. So how do you go about finding out whether you are being deceived? Read on for the tell tale signs that are a clear indication that he is keeping you as his dirty little secret.

You can only reach him at his convenience

If every so often you try calling your man but are rarely able to reach him, yet he calls you back moments later with the usual excuse that he was in a meeting or was somehow tied up or if he has discovered your pattern of calling him so that when he knows you are about to call, he sends you a text message saying he will call later, then you have to start getting curious.

I am not implying that this is a clear indication that he could be up to some hanky panky with another woman, what I simply mean is that if you can only reach your man at his convenience, then most likely he is busy with some other woman as Njeri Baraka, 32, discovered. “I had been dating this guy for seven months, and everything seemed perfect.

My only concern was that I could rarely reach him on his cellphone especially after 8pm.

Whenever I called, he wouldn’t pick up but would call me back after a few minutes. I discovered that something was fishy in our relationship he would ignore some phone calls when he was with me.

I became curious one time when we were chilling out on a Saturday afternoon at my place and James got calls that he kept ignoring.

When he went to the shops to get cigarettes and forgot his phone which had fallen out of his pocket onto the seat, I clicked on a text that was fresh in the inbox.

Imagine my shock when the text read “hey sweety, trying to reach you wassup! Please come, home there is a rat in the kitchen and I’m scared to bits. Just sacrifice the soccer game and come now, I’ll make it worth your while, Please.”

This immediately explained why in the last two months James always had excuses when I suggested that I stop by his place.

I hadn’t realised that there was actually another woman involved, I have never been that hurt in my life and felt used.

When he came back from getting his cigarettes I told him that I never wanted to see him again, He was shocked that I had discovered his game but I let him go and now I am very careful with men who only want to date you at your house.” Adds Njeri.

He says he doesn’t celebrate his birthday or Valentine’s but you don’t see him on those days

Now if the man in your life is the kind of guy who insists that he is not the lovey dovey type, the kind of guy who doesn’t celebrate birthdays, Valentine’s day’s, but hardly do you ever get a chance to spend that particular day with him, then you have reason to be concerned.