I lost him to my sister

“Trust no woman with your man. Many men are weak and always have an appetite for new servings.”

These are some of the phrases I heard from a long interview with Janet * regarding her love experiences in the last four years.

Janet turned 30 on Valentine’s Day (February 14) last year but unfortunately, it is also the day she  learnt that the man she had introduced to her family in 2008 would not marry her, after all.

“He invited me for lunch somewhere in Upper Hill and when I got there, I found my younger sister already sitting with him having a soft drink,” she says.

To say that she was surprised would be an understatement because she had thought this was her day with “her man”.

“I did not expect to be invited to sit down by my sister but I decided to downplay the whole setting because I did not want to spoil the day,” says Janet.

A seat had been reserved for her, on the right hand side of her man. Two months later, by the time Easter came round, it was no longer a secret that her younger sister, 27, was more often with her man than herself.

On two occasions, Janet found him already welcomed to the house they shared with the sister. In both instances, she (Janet) had invited the man only for him to come earlier than expected.

During the Easter festivities, she was left in no doubt that there was something fishy going on behind her back between her sister and her boyfriend.

Her other younger sister spilt the beans when she disclosed to Janet that she had been lied to that her man had gone to his rural home, yet he was in Naivasha.

After making inquiries, Janet  (and the informer sister) pieced together information that her man was actually in Naivasha, at a time their sister was also supposed to be in the lakeside town.

When Janet confronted her the following week on whether she had seen her man in Naivasha, the sister was furious.

“I was not in Naivasha to look out for any man. I had gone there to do my own things,” she retorted. She then decided to redirect her arsenal to her man, asking him if he had seen her sister in Naivasha.

“Is there anything wrong with me being with her? Can’t I have time with her and talk about many issues. I always tell you she is my great friend,” he said.

This turned out to be the turning point in the relationship. Though there was no “ugly incident”, it was apparent that her man was now going out with her sister who after the Easter escapades made it a point to avoid any discussion about the man.

“Any mention of him just made her move away She always insisted that she was not forcing anyone to be with her and that she had nothing against him,” says Janet.

Janet , who works as a civil servant in Nairobi confirms that her sister and the man have been together since last year.

Did she ever try to sort things out with both of them? I ask.