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I adore her, but differences in religion are driving us apart

Monday May 21 2018

I’m in a relationship with a woman whom I really love. We’re both Christians, but I am Catholic while she is a Protestant. She believes that I am at the wrong place spiritually due to various doctrinal differences. PHOTO | FOTOSEARCH

I’m in a relationship with a woman whom I really love. We’re both Christians, but I am Catholic while she is a Protestant. She believes that I am at the wrong place spiritually due to various doctrinal differences. PHOTO | FOTOSEARCH 

By PHILIP KITOTO
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Hi,

I’m in a relationship with a woman whom I really love and would love to spend the rest of my life with. Unfortunately, many barriers exist to prevent this from happening, chief among them being religion. We’re both Christians, but I am Catholic while she is a Protestant. She believes that I am at the wrong place spiritually due to various doctrinal differences between the two denominations.

From what I can see, no matter how many qualities of a great husband I ever possess, I will always be incomplete in her eyes, which makes me really sad.

In addition, I have noticed that she tends to go for long periods without communicating at all but as soon as she senses that I seem to be losing interest in her or not caring, she runs back to me or cries, claiming that she doesn’t know me anymore.

This silent, uncaring attitude has dragged on to the point that she doesn’t involve, or even inform me, of her plans anymore. She claims to love and care about me, and that she desires to have a future with me. She says all she needs is time to deliberate on issues.

My questions are:

 1. Should I hang on and wait for her, since my love for her keeps me hoping but her actions and attitude towards me really hurt me?

 2. Can an inter-denominational union survive today? I do pray a lot and have always asked God to show us the way forward in our relationship.

I’d really appreciate your wise counsel.

Joseph

 

Hi,

One’s religion or faith is a personal matter, and each person will have to be accountable some day. I have also seen that in marriage, issues of faith play a key role that cannot be underrated. When you marry, you accept to live with all that defines the other person. And in both your case and hers, church will always be a part of your lives.