My girlfriend always postpones our dates

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Dear Kitoto,

I am 27. I live in Nairobi and my girlfriend in Meru. I am struggling with the relationship because she always postpones our meetings.

For example, she was in Thika last month and she asked me to meet her, but to my surprise, she did not pick my calls on that day. She later explained that she was in a meeting.

But because this shifting of dates seems to be a habit, should I leave her? I feel that although she says misses me a lot and even claims that loves me, I do not think she is serious. Please help me out.

Muriithi

Hi,

I am not really the best person to give you the go ahead to leave her or not. I am not privy to the reasons for her failure to meet with you.

However, I believe you are best placed to make an evaluation of:

1. What makes you think that she is meant for you: Are there qualities that draw you to her?

2. What makes you doubt your love for her: Is it just the fact that she fails to honour the appointments?

If you discover that your love for her is real, and that she genuinely cares for you, then find a way to communicate and you can gauge whether her fears are connected with the purposes of meetings and not necessary a refusal to see you. On the other hand, if you get answers that are not satisfactory, make up your mind and move on.