JUST BRENDA: My husband refuses to talk about his affair

My husband sleeps with house helps. PHOTO| FILE| NATION MEDIA GROUP

What you need to know:

  • If you haven't left him by now, then clearly you're not going to, so your options are as follows.
  • First of all, try getting a male house help, because clearly you don't want this in your house even if it might be happening somewhere else.
  • Do you have a problem to share with Brenda? Please email: [email protected]

Hi Brenda,

I have been married for 13 years, with two children. My husband is unfaithful and disrespectful as he even sleeps with house helps. I let my house help go when I discovered this.

Now, the big problem is that if you confront him about this issue, he ‘mutes’ in the house for a while. Now it's four months down the line, and we practically don’t communicate. At least not the way I would like us to do. I need sober advice here, because I'm now fed up. What can I do to overcome this kind of misery?

13 years is a very long time to be married, and it is a very long time to still be having arguments about your husband keeping his pecker in his pants.

If you haven't left him by now, then clearly you're not going to, so your options are as follows.

First of all, try getting a male house help, because clearly you don't want this in your house even if it might be happening somewhere else.

Then, you can be talking to the male house help since he isn't talking to you.

As the mother of his two children and the excuser of his indiscretions, you deserve more than silent treatment for four months.

He is acting like his offspring. Move on with your life until he is ready to stop doing so.

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Do you have a problem to share with Brenda? Please email: [email protected]