Hi Brenda. I’m in love with my boss and I don’t know what to do.
She is the head of department and I came in as an intern. She mentored me and eventually recommended me for a permanent job.
I’ve always had a crush on her and I thought I would outgrow it but a year later, I feel I have to ask her out so that I can settle down because right now I can’t focus well as long as she is around….what do I do?
This is a terrible idea. I'm surprised your feelings have persisted this long, and so might actually be something more than a crush, but you really can't act on them.
First of all, this infatuation needs to stop! You don't engage with her on anything other than a professional level, so what exactly are you in love with?
Confessing your feelings will only ruin your workplace environment.
Most HR policies don't approve of in-house relationships. You might as well quit your job and ask her out – because anything other than that is a prime set-up for a sexual harassment case.
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