JUST BRENDA: Has she found someone else?

Thursday November 16 2017

This is heartbreaking for me as it makes me

This is heartbreaking for me as it makes me feel like she has another man in her life.  What shall I do? PHOTO| FILE| NATION MEDIA GROUP 

By JUST BRENDA
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Hi Brenda,

I am John and I have a girlfriend that I love dearly. Currently, I’m in school in Western Kenya while she’s at Kenyatta University. She rarely calls or texts unless I take initiative. Sometimes she goes silent for even two weeks.

This is heartbreaking for me as it makes me feel like she has another man in her life.  What shall I do?

Edu Ji Massive

Dear Jester John,

This lady is clowning you, quite literally. Are you in a relationship or do you just love her? If you just love her and you haven't made your intentions known, that's a whole different story.

If you are in a relationship...let's just say, you are not in a relationship.

There is no such thing as two people who claim to love each other and enjoy each other’s company having some sort of one-sided communication strategy.

That complete lack of reciprocity means you are only in a relationship with yourself, and yes, she has found another guy.

Either ask her about it or, what I recommend, go silent for a month and see if she calls you. If she doesn't, well, then I rest my case.

If she does, depending on how long she takes to notice your absence, I would suggest you end it anyway because this lady is clearly just not that into you.

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