JUST BRENDA: My boyfriend is controlling. Help!

Dear Brenda,

I am 25 years old and I have been dating a 45-year-old man for nine months. He is not married, and he takes care of me. He also takes care of my sister as I live with her.

Recently, he began paying my house rent and doing shopping for us. He treats me well and is also good to my friends.

My problem is he doesn’t want me to have male friends, and he also doesn’t want me spending time with my friends without him around.

He wants me to be with him all the time, apart from the weekends I go to the village.

I feel like he is controlling me, like he owns me, and I don’t know how to deal with the situation. He wants to marry me in future but I don’t know…kindly advise me.

This man is trying to be your daddy, i.e. your literal and very real life father. This is the time to flee. If you've only been dating for nine months, then you still have time to run.

You're young, and can still build a career without a man telling you not to have male friends in 2018 as if this was 1264. What nonsense is this? He wants to come for girl chat with your girlfriends? How will you talk about him then? Would he like you to discuss his game in bed as he is present? Nonsense.

You are dating a control freak who wants to be around you all the time, not from love, but because he wants to control you and is doing it with his money.

You shouldn't marry this guy, unless you enjoy being a child again. Save yourself.

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