JUST BRENDA: My girlfriend insists we have sex, but I don't want to

Sunday April 15 2018

Frustrated couple.

I am not ready to have sex right now but my girlfriend insists that we have sex to prove my manhood. She has threatened to leave me if I don’t. PHOTO | FOTOSEARCH 

By JUST BRENDA
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Dear Brenda,

I met this lady three months ago and we are in a relationship. The only problem is that she insists that we have sex to prove my manhood. She has threatened to leave me if I don’t. I respect her, that’s why I am not ready to have sex right now. Help.

 

Is your manhood directly correlated to your penis? This woman is pressuring you unnecessarily. First of all, you met three months ago. That seems a bit soon for a sexual relationship, only because you haven't even had enough time to get tested twice for HIV; unless you got tested on the day you met.

With three months of background, you don't know this lady from Adam. Why the insistence on proving your manhood? Is sex the only way? If sex was what she wanted from your relationship, then there was no need to make it official. Let her leave you and go find what she really wants.

Not that sex is a bad thing to want – just that if the other party doesn't want it, then there should be no harassment over it, surely. It's 2018. Let people live celibate, unenthusiastic, single and searching and/or otherwise.

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