ASK HR: How do I break the ice with my new boss?

Q. What is the easiest way to gel with a new manager if your personalities totally clash?

This disconnect with my new supervisor is not affecting my work, but it makes the work environment very stiff.

I am also worried that we will have a difficult time should there be a crisis. How do I make our relationship more friendly?

Though you will not be evaluated on how friendly you and your boss are, productivity thrives where good relationships exist, and you are right in seeking to create a good rapport.

In addition, good interpersonal relationships contribute to a positive work environment which is a key enabler of high performance.

Though bosses come and go, they play an important part in our professional lives, and for that reason, you are likely to have a connection with this person long after they cease managing you.

To build this relationship, understand their communication style to make it easier for you to channel your ideas. Do they like facts, results, big picture stuff or do they prefer face-to-face consultations or perhaps like to have some background information before consultations.

Deliver your promises. If you agree on key assignments and delivery time, be sure to come through. Let him or her know you can be relied upon. Do not shy away from challenging tasks, where you need guidance, be sure to consult and be guided.

Be open and do not form alliances that may undermine her or his authority. Let your boss know you can be trusted. One way of enhancing trust is through giving feedback objectively, being open with information that you know will be useful in decision-making.

If you overhear your colleagues discussing your boss, be on her or his defense, and afterwards give her or him feedback in a constructive way without putting your colleagues in a difficult situation.

Demonstrate your loyalty, bosses value this. Be careful not to go into their personal space unless they let you in.

Likewise, do not share personal matters unless the relationship gets to such a level of openness. Think twice before asking to befriend your boss on social media especially on platforms that may come across as personal.

Remember bosses come and go and they not only have different personalities, but also different management styles. But one key fact is that they are an important part of your professional journey and their recommendation or lack of it can grow or derail your career growth.

Always invest in building the right relationships and remember that some bosses remain friends long after you have both moved on and that their networks will continue to be useful in your work.

Good bosses become good mentors and will always have your back.

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