I’m trapped in an abusive marriage
I have been married to my husband for 10 years. Our marriage has been a series of fights and disagreements. PHOTO/ FILE
What you need to know:
It looks like he is not remorseful, neither is he ready to abandon his behaviour and save his marriage.
Instead of staying in such a marriage, I suggest you evaluate how you can support yourself and your children financially.
You say you are staying in this marriage for the children’s sake. Kindly know that you are supposed to count yourself in the mix as you too have a right to happiness.
Q. I have been married to my husband for 10 years. Our marriage has been a series of fights and disagreements.
He cheats on me and when I confront him, he hits me hard. I once caught him with a woman and I beat her up.
When my husband came home in the evening he beat me until I became unconscious. I want to leave but I fear for my children’s upbringing.
He insults me even in front of them. I hate myself and everything around me. Please help.
A: It is sad fact that you have been in an abusive marriage for such a long time. The fact that your husband has been cheating on and abusing you physically is a true indicator that you are in a harmful marriage.
It looks like he is not remorseful, neither is he ready to abandon his behaviour and save his marriage.
Instead of staying in such a marriage, I suggest you evaluate how you can support yourself and your children financially.
You say you are staying in this marriage for the children’s sake. Kindly know that you are supposed to count yourself in the mix as you too have a right to happiness.
Also, it is better for the children to leave an abusive situation rather than live in one. The painful truth is that you are the only one who is committed in this marriage – your husband is not. It was also unwise of you to fight one of your husband’s women. This can only make things worse, as you might end up fighting so many, bearing in mind that your husband has never been faithful.
Getting out of such a marriage would be the safer option before you get hurt permanently, whether physically or emotionally.
That said, the focus now should be on you and your children, which means that you will need to look for a way of becoming a stronger woman.
Ask close family members and friends for support.
Talk with them about what you are going through as this will offload the emotional stress you may be going through, and possibly help you make a sound decision. Take control of your life and that of the children and make your way back to happiness.
